When you have to break up with someone, the few days before you bring it up in conversation are heinous, uncomfortable, and appallingly heart wrenching. Your inner coward comes out and you hope that she/he will just get the point so that you won’t have to face the truth. You want to shrivel up and die; the fetal position looks pretty enticing during these times.
The truth hurts, right? It’s been said many times many ways, but even though the truth hurts us sometimes, it’s always better than a lie. Most people appreciate the truth much more than an extended lie even though it stings like a fucking jellyfish sometimes. Everyone would rather be broken up with immediately as their lovers’ feelings disappear than be lied to and drag out the stinky reality that is a relationship between two people who don’t love each other equally. Both of my girlfriends essentially forced me to break up with them by acting aloof and trying to put the responsibility of our lives on me. I am still kind of pissed off about that, although I also truly appreciate the fact that both were able to love me and take care of me and ultimately make me a better person having dated them. It’s the ultimate slap in the balls to force someone else to be responsible for your own health. I despised my entire existence after I had decided to break up with both girlfriends and had yet to “bring up the break up.” But what happens when you have to break up with a friend or an acquaintance? I had to experience this recently. There is only one thing worse than breaking up with a friend and that is ending a bona fide relationship.
Find out what I said to my buddy….
by Simon on March 28, 2009
I’ve been thinking a whole lot about the differences between men and women lately. I think it’s because I’m just so curious. There’s a little devil on my shoulder that wonders what exactly a beautiful girl is thinking when she walks past and me and I’m having a mini psychotic breakdown, lusting after her so colossally that I want to vomit.
That movie ‘What Women Want’ (although I’ve never had the pleasure of viewing it) is about looking into the mind of a woman. I guess I should just come right out and say that I think that is the worst idea for a movie ever. Not only would it be extraordinarily overwhelming to know exactly what all the women around you were thinking but it wouldn’t really be beneficial either. I also think in my own particular case, it would be a giant turn off because if all the women that I lust after were doing the same in return I think I’d be slightly repulsed.
As I walked out of work today, thinking about a new Mrs. Fantasy as usual, I started making a list of things that really define the sexual differences between men and women (beyond the obvious vagina/penis and emotional/suppressed comparisons). This is a work in progress and I almost didn’t post it because I know how endless this kind of brainstorm can be. On the other hand, I’ve been thinking about this for about ten years now so I figured it was time to unveil it on the eve of it’s first decade. I realize that these are gross generalizations so please keep your fiery comments (both internal and external) at bay. I also am making absolutely no judgments whatsoever about these differences. I have chosen to present them so that you can do the judging yourself.
“The only reason why you’d be in a relationship is so that you can have sex all day.” – Men
by Simon on March 26, 2009
Does generation Y date enough?
I’ve heard stories from my parents and their friends about back “when we were your age.” Most of these were anecdotes of little consequence, but a certain issue regarding relationships really caught my attention.
One of my best friend’s mom was remarried a few years ago. She was explaining to us how her fiance had been dating a few women, and she was dating a couple guys, but eventually decided that they both liked each other best. It got me to thinking: have I ever dated more than one person at the same time? The answer is no. And I further thought to all of my friends, and I couldn’t think of one person who has dated two people at once. How many people have you dated at once?
by Cole on March 26, 2009
Everyone has their own idea for a perfect relationship algorithm. “I think you should take that person into account in every decision.” “I think you need to maintain your independence.” “I think you should be independent but also think about what they feel.”
Considering that people are different, who knows if there is a right answer. As long as the two members of the couple have the same views on how their relationship should work, then it’s a good start. The surface details of how they proceed in their own love is not the issue. I’m worried about the feeling behind the actions. Continuar
by Cole on March 23, 2009
“I’ve been lookin’ for a lover but I haven’t found her yet. She’ll be nothin’ like I picture her to be. In her eyes I will discover another reason why I want to live and make the best of what I see.” – Neil Young, “Lookin’ For A Lover” 1975
We’re all searching for someone to hold us, to care for us, and love us unconditionally. This search for the person that can “complete” us is probably what we’re ultimately here for. I know the preceding sentence is most likely true but for some reason that I can’t pinpoint exactly, I don’t understand it. I don’t take myself that seriously.
Do you take yourself seriously enough to continue?
by Simon on March 23, 2009
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