“I know flirting is nothing and that should be where it ends. But I know yes I know that I want you for more than a friend.” – Aaron Barrett of Reel Big Fish, Cheer Up!
Flirting. It’s easy isn’t it? Especially when you walk into the grocery store or the coffee shop and the checker or the barista is just breathtaking. You can’t help yourself; you really want to prove how hot you think they are. It’s the easiest form of communication, especially when the opposite sex is involved. (I’m not gay and I never have been (do people evolve out (or even in!) of gayness by the way? this interests me) but I imagine the energy in the room when you see someone else who is also obviously homosexual is a million times more than the energy that heterosexuals feel, given that far fewer people are gay than straight.) I think flirting vaguely represents verbal sex. Scratch that. Flirting is verbal sex. Someone give me a high five for coining that phrase.
Flirt with this post…..
by Simon on February 25, 2010
Recently, I’ve been writing all of my observations about relationships in a journal with the intention of one day compiling them into a book to rival Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. I want to share some of these ideas so I can get feedback and maybe aide a couple people who are looking in the self-help section.
“I love you for who you are.” We hear this said a lot. I have believed it to be true without much thought. I mean, if one is aware of someone else’s problems in a relationship, isn’t it loving them for who they are simply expressed by still loving them regardless?–In theory, yes.
There is a subtle distinction, though. Have you ever been in a situation where you thought, “If (insert name here) didn’t (insert issue here) he/she would be perfect.”? Are you in love with the idea of a person?
by Cole on February 17, 2010
Story:
Dear Cole,
I’d just like to share a story with you from when I was in holiday in Australia back in September….
A bit of background; I went over to visit some friends and generally chill out before heading back to school to start a new post grad course and although I was only there for a few weeks I kind of got involved with a girl called Lucy that I met through a friend. We hung out a lot and when I wanted to stay a few days longer and my flight couldn’t be moved she actually paid for a new one for me with her airmiles! During the extra days earned from her airmiles, one of the most spectacular nights of my life happened!
What happened to Jack?
by Cole on February 14, 2010
Dear Simon,
I have thought about everything you are saying many times over, so many times to the point where the redundancy has become confusing. But, after thinking, and over-thinking, over and over again, I have come to some understanding.
To me, the grandpa in Little Miss Sunshine isn’t really talking about the idea of fucking a lot of girls, but instead talking about the idea of not settling, which I think is a very positive and underutilized idea. I’m certainly not advocating fucking as many girls as possible, because I have tried to do that at a certain point in my life and it is very unfulfilling. But, I think the movie is equating sleeping with a lot of girls to the idea of meeting a lot of people, and these days a lot of people meet by having a one night stand. By coming in contact with an abundance of characters, we increase the chance of finding someone with whom a relationship is, as Taylor Swift eloquently put it, easy.
Let’s say that we could have a successful, long-term relationship with one percent of the population in which we are interested (e.g. straight men for straight girls, gay men for gay men, etc.). Now, I feel that one percent is way too high, but since the reality is less than the example, I can use it. Why is it so hard to find someone?…
by Cole on February 12, 2010
Young Cole and Simon
Cole,
I gather that, based on everything we’ve shared together, you feel the same way that I do about everything I’m about to divulge to you. Or maybe you don’t, I don’t know.
A few weeks back when I was down in LA for that wedding, some of the guys and I were talking about how many girls we’ve had sex with. The dude dynamic when it comes to these conversations is definitively interesting. Coming out of it, I couldn’t help but think of what the grandpa says in Little Miss Sunshine. He tells his mute grandson, “Sleep with a lotta women, kid. I mean a lot of women.” I could never really figure out what he meant by that but I assume he just wanted the kid to get out there and see what the world had to offer him.
Click here to see what Simon has to say to Cole….
by Simon on February 12, 2010
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