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No, this is not a joke. We didn’t make up this name, it just happens to be extremely similar to the one we made up for our
first anonymous email. But, thank you so much Kat for your email! Aside from some close friends & a serious appreciation for “The L Word,” our experience with lesbian relations is limited. But, as a bisexual friend of ours said, “people are people,” & we’ll do our best to help you Kat.
Hi Simon & Cole,
Love your blog! My question is a little different though. In December I met a girl out one night & we hit it off right away – not a situation I’ve ever been in (meeting a WOMAN in a bar, & one that I was actually attracted to). She told me about her boyfriend of 4 years but also how she’s always been “curious” about being with a woman & wanted to explore her attraction to them. Red flag went up immediately – I don’t want to be some curious girl’s experiment, but at the same time, the chemistry between us was unreal. She broke up with her boyfriend pretty abruptly & things took off. We spent almost every day of December & most of January together until one day she decided that being friends was best. I knew from the beginning that may happen witnessing her overwhelming attraction to men, yet why me?
After the “friend” talk occurred, she continued to be overtly sexual with me, corner me in bars, & tell me how much she cares about me. Neither of us want to be in a relationship, but that kind of contact after setting boundaries was inappropriate & gave me a sense of false hope. She initiated everything the entire time & I played no part in “turning her gay.” A few nights ago, she pulled me into the bathroom while we were out with all our friends for a steamy make-out sesh. Don’t get me wrong, I liked it a lot, but knew better. Later that night, she slept with one of our guy friends & has been seeing him since.
She claims she doesn’t want to be exclusive & likes the best of both worlds…but can’t hook up with me because she’s afraid her feelings will grow. I on the other hand, want to remain disease-free & won’t bother. I suppose my question is…what does this all mean? Did she have her curiosity settled & decided just to be friends or is she just a selfish slut? Is she dating this new guy simply because he’s a guy & it’s easier that way? Oh women…can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em.
Thanks guys!
Kat
