Q: I am interested in your view on … cheating. More my question is not about the one doing the cheating but the other person; “the other woman” so to speak, or “the other man”. If this “other” person knows that the person they are with is cheating on his significant other should he or she take the initiative to end the cheat? — Or should he or she at least feel guilty, or is it not the “others” responsibility … ?
Just something I had been thinking about.
Thanks,
Allison As the cheat-ee do you assume any responsibility for wrong doing?
A friend of mine had recently decided that she either wanted a loving, supportive relationship or to be truly happy alone. I asked her if she would be happy being by herself for the most part, but maybe having a couple people who she was “friends” with, but had some sexual chemistry & hooked-up with when she saw them & maybe even spent a couple boyfriend-girlfriendy days with when they were both in the mood. What other types of relationships could we be in?
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I was getting a ride home from work today with my lovely girlfriend thinking about what to write about for S&C today when the song “Let Me Love You” by Mario came on. I immediately — as I often do — exclaimed, “Holy shit, I just got a great idea for a S&C article.”
Mario’s song talks about how if some girl just let him love her he would never cheat on her & he would treat her right & give her everything [she] wants & needs. I think this feeling of wanting someone who is in a bad relationship presently & wondering why they are in it & why they can’t just give it up & realize they should be with someone like you who would treat them so well is pretty common Why can’t people in bad relationships just let someone treat them well?
We all have those friends who are always in relationships. I constantly wonder why they can’t just be by themselves. They go from relationship to relationship — most of them bad, abusive, controlled, unhappy, etc. — & never really learn anything. See, this is the problem with serial monogamy, it’s that you never have that rest from the relationship activity you need to synthesize what you have learned.
A lot of times these people will say something like, “Well I don’t wanna leave this until I have something better.” What’s wrong with serial monogamy?
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Q: I am interested in your view on … cheating. More my question is not about the one doing the cheating but the other person; “the other woman” so to speak, or “the other man”. If this “other” person knows that the person they are with is cheating on his significant other should he or she take the initiative to end the cheat? — Or should he or she at least feel guilty, or is it not the “others” responsibility … ?
