Q: I am interested in your view on … cheating. More my question is not about the one doing the cheating but the other person; “the other woman” so to speak, or “the other man”. If this “other” person knows that the person they are with is cheating on his significant other should he or she take the initiative to end the cheat? — Or should he or she at least feel guilty, or is it not the “others” responsibility … ?
Just something I had been thinking about.
Thanks,
Allison
Once I asked what I thought was a fairly practical question to a girl friend of mine.
“Why is that like 95% of songs are about love? Why is it that when artists sit down to write tunes, the first thing that comes to mind is the emotional experiences that occur to us while we’re in love?”
She laughed when I said this, & now that enough time has passed, I understand why. Why are so many songs about love?
I just got home from the second of five college graduations this spring. I went through a variety of emotions during these
weekends but basically none of them had anything to do with the people who were graduating. A graduation weekend is something of a celebration in it’s purest form. Like the wedding was a few months back, I became slightly introspective about my own experience with “the next step” & how my life is set to change in the years to come. All the cute girls in sun dresses didn’t help but I certainly tried to pay attention a little less to them & a little more to the loving families that surrounded me.
Both graduations were out of town so I spent a large amount of time in airports & on airplanes, checking out women. I do this a lot obviously but for whatever reason being hungover in an airport really makes you want to fuck pretty much anything that breathes. (To revise that in a slightly less vulgar manner, I’d probably say being hungover just makes you lonely. Period.)
When you’re a single traveler like myself, there are many things that go through your head when you see an attractive woman. First & most obvious is “I wonder if she’s single”. I can’t tell you how many hands I’ve looked at in search of a ring. That doesn’t always work but more than anything it can give you confidence. Second is “Why is she going where I’m going? Simon’s take on attractive women at graduations
How many people have you screwed over? Most of the time when a relationship or a hookup ends, we usually tend to blame one party for the demise. The most common reasons are cheating, boredom, & bad timing. I think we’re just far too obsessed with the idea of winning & losing in our culture that we’ve actually gotten to a point where the only thing that matters is whose fault the end of a relationship is. Just like I’ve written about before, the only thing that matters is how we handle our relationships & their continued successes or failures. The number of people you’ve fucked over, just like the number of people you’ve slept with, is pretty inconsequential.
When we first started this blog, I had a policy. I basically told myself that I was not going to write anything about anyone who I cared about unless I had their expressed consent. That caused me to write a lot of things about people who at the time I didn’t think that I cared about. Since then I’ve done some maturing & realized that I care about anyone who has made an impact on my life for better or for worse. I’ve changed my bio, altered a post here & there & generally been a little more aware of what I write about. I guess all of this would matter a lot more if we had a larger readership but I felt it was better to take care of this needed change sooner rather than later.
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