For nearly two years now, I’ve been a single guy. I find myself devoting all my time and energy to Simon and Simon’s needs only. It’s great to be selfish at a young age when the only  things I want to do when I get home from work are personal, meaning they don’t pertain to other people.  You can let your mind run wild with the possibilities, although they’re mostly G-rated and include both active and inactive solutions to the monotony of a 40-hour workweek. You might even say I’m a pretty “busy” guy. How busy do you have to be to not want to go out with someone…?

Fact: Attractive women are capable, in a far greater capacity than men, of going out at night and getting most any guy they so desire.

Imagine it’s a few months from now.  For some reason or another-maybe because of a failed relationship, maybe no luck dating, or maybe just our love of spending money on useless things-you are at a crowded seminar given by a relationship counselor by the name of Cole Horn.  The beginning has been moderately interesting. He has touched on some common misconceptions women have about men, some general dating advice, and then he asks everyone to fill out a questionnaire attached to the registration packet.

The questionnaire has a space for circling your gender, and below, one question: If you were out at a bar and saw someone you found attractive, would you sleep with them? Think about the answer in your head and continue…

In the time that we were away we were not totally stagnant.  We did a series of guest posts for our friend at smallhandsbigideas.com.  Here is the first of that series.

Although I most certainly knew some form of this lesson before today, I re-learned an important one: the bus is not a good place to find a date. This was evidenced by the high-pitched female voice that came from behind me and screamed of insecurity.

“Why the hell didn’t you just say ‘hold on’ before you put me on hold and left me high and dry?” She nearly shrieked into the phone, startling a few elderly people at her side.

Silence.  Holy smokes, I thought. It’s that kind of situation that is not only destined for abject misery, but that happens to even the most experienced of people.

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A cute little writer friend of mine brought something to my attention the other day.  She and her friends pre-game dates.  She told me she was sitting at dinner with some friends talking about their individual dating habits, and after a bit they all realized that they pre-gamed dates.  When I inquired into just how each of them went about this relaxing of sorts, she explained that one friend smoked a bowl, another had a glass of wine, another took a shot, etc., but the common denominator was they all did it!

I haven’t been in the adult dating world for too long.  I’m fairly young, and in college dating is something very different than it is in the working world.  In college, you probably met your girlfriend/boyfriend at a party and you fucked that night and Read on…